CONGRUENCE

Some cool ideas i’ve been looking at recently:

Congruence

Doing what you say you’re going to do.

Alignment of words and actions.

If life we will be tested.

Its fun to say ‘this is what i’m about’ – its another thing to SEE what you are about through what you do / dont do.

I’ll write this post here in perspective of what I see in my life —

and you can see if it applies to your life.

So for many of you – you know me from my posts consistently pushing the idea of “being the best”

I mean that genuinely.

Being the best version of you for real – its a multi YEAR journey to do.

It also involves changing the world because we are interconnected.

That’s a multi-decade journey for us.

Its very specific

I’m not interested in positive thinking. Its a trap much of the time.

Its a realness to it.

To being your best.

Not participating in limiting thoughts.

Not going into pity or fear

Being the best within yourself AND how you show up in the world.

Leading us to a better world starting locally with those around you.

And being that for our kids especially.

Being that role model

So with that – and speaking out about this – of course I have to also LIVE it

Which leads me to the point here

Congruence

It means — me doing the same thing in public and in private

When no one is watching do I still do my best?

Do I look at the thoughts I participate in?

Within myself am I judging stuff or am I looking at what makes sense?

Do I just look for the easy way out?

Or do I persevere and get the RIGHT things done that creates the best outcome?

Do I stay in my comfort zone of past success and ‘ride the wave’ or do I continue to be the BEST

So that’s what I look at

And within this its one of the coolest things

Having a wife and kids…

WHY?

Because – they are a mirror to me

For example – if I really don’t feel like doing something after a long day. Like the other day —

Our son Aristotle had decided to empty out his entire box of toy blocks

They got EVERYWHERE

Like under the couch, he threw some outside off our deck into the bushes

It was really a mess

I had a long day

I didn’t want to pick it up.

And in that moment I’m chillin on the couch

Literally in the moment my wife said ‘Hey can you help me with something’

First thought was – “no. I am tired IDK what it is I need to sit here and chill”

IMMEDIATE next thought was ‘that is ridiculous just move myself’ and I went straight into it while taking a deep breath

We ended up laughing and just picking up the stuff

We were admiring how he literally got blocks stuck inside the couch

And we just laughed about it.

Those LITTLE moments…

Build up our character

Create our destiny

When I say I’m committed to being my best

It’s not some grandiose thing… that’s just the mind trapping us in our own little VR prison …

Its these little moments

Its deciding to default to NOT be that weak version of myself.

And instead to be who I know I can be.

And push myself

No excuses

Whether in public or in private

And that accumulates.

It becomes you

Your consistency becomes your consistency

What you consistently do becomes who you are (like the consistency of your substance)

And that is being congruent

LIVING congruence

What you say and do

Who you commit yourself to be

And that’s what will get reflected back

And we WILL be tested

Look forward to the test

ENJOY the test

So take what you will from this

But if it can be a little moment where you now act different and that accumulates

It was worth me typing these words

Because i’m here to be my best and to bring that out of you

Have a great saturday

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